COURTESY COSTS NOTHING

COURTESY COSTS NOTHING

 

It is said that Manners make men.  A person who has deep knowledge but no manners, then he wouldn't be taken as a good human being.  In contrast to this, if man has a little knowledge but having good manners and etiquette, would be taken as a great person. It is because knowledge is bounteous. Having good manners and etiquette one can build his/her reputation at the workplace and society. 

Good manners means a sense of ethics, values and it is inculcated through education, lectures, seminars, discussions, books, films etc. Good manners are the art of making those around us easy and comfortable. Good manners should always begin at home. Charity begins at home. Politeness is not a jewel or cloth to be worn in all dresses only to be put on, in spite of that it is that vision which everybody should have in their language and behaviour.  Good manners are the result of much good sense, some good nature, and a kind heart, soft spoken language which sometimes touches the emotions, feelings and heart of others.  It should be socially realized from the heart and appreciated wholeheartedly. 

The young students should behave mannerly, but sometimes they often feel timid, bashful and self-distrustful at that moment whenever they are introduced by a stranger in front of many people. There is only one way to get over this feeling that is they should start learning aspects of manners from home with the help of their parents, friend circle and teachers. For the acquisition of good manners and etiquette, we all must be courteous, energetic, kind, enthusiastic, a good learner only then we can be able to earn all manner qualities in us. The most agreeable persons in a company are those who are the most agreeable at home. Home is the school for all the best things which we all gain and face in our life at every stage of our age. Parents are our first teachers. Good manners are an essential part of our life-education, career and wisdom.

The true art of being an agreeable person is to appear well pleased with all the company and face all the situations with a gentle and kind heart and cool attitude. It is firmly believed that a sweet smile, the quiet expression, an intelligent and polite movement in addressing a friend or especially a stranger, whom one may recommend to our good regards always gets our graceful attention, which is so captivating and positively marks our impression on them. One of the most important and remarkable aspects of a character is the manner in which we conduct ourselves toward others. A graceful, active and impressive behaviour toward superiors, inferiors, and equals is a constant source of pleasure and happiness in one’s life. It pleases others because it indicates respect for their personality and outlook, but it gives tenfold more pleasure to ourselves. Every person should become a 

Self-educator in good behaviour and a positive attitude to a large extent. We all should believe one thing that dignity should exist in our own minds. The language of a man is a perfect real good index of his character. It is quietly observed that an educated, cultivated and refined person always, speaks softly, quietly, gently in such a manner that their every word is uttered with composure, even under bad situations also. 

The cultivation of manners is highly necessary for a person who is ready and willing to negotiate with others in matters of business, education and on personal grounds also. Good manners are not only an embellishment of personal charms. Beauty is the gift of nature, but manners are acquired by cultivation, surroundings, practice and adapting. Manners, etiquettes, wisdom, virtue, intelligence and worth, are universally respected and appreciated. All these help us to find our originality and individuality in our own respective life. 

The importance of learning and practising good manners in our life is very much necessary which will help all of us to live in the most beautiful way. Manners are the most significant standards of conduct which show a person to be cultured, polite, educated, intelligent and refined. They set a standard for human behaviour, attitude and thinking. 

Good manners do not come naturally to us, they have to be learnt and practiced more day by day in our life. If children were not told and shown how to behave politely with everyone, they will grow up rough and rude like savages with all. Manners are used every day to make a good impression on others and also to feel good about oneself so that we can live freely and easily in our life. Good manners are more than “opening doors” so, that everybody should be welcomed with open arms and “writing thank you notes” for giving back our gratitude to others in the simplest and admirable way. 

 

In this way, we are also setting standards for other’s behaviour and encouraging them to treat us with similar respect, attention, honour, care and love. It is truly said and observed that always ‘Treat others the way you want them to treat you”.

Children who understand and practice good manners feel more self-confident and become more proactive in their dealings with adults. This feeling of self-confidence is very important to our future success and also to maintain our satisfaction level by raising the level of our happiness in our life. We can make a difference in our school, in our community, in our state and in our nation by practising Good Manners. Good manners play an important part in maintaining peace and good willingness  in a community. A man who has good manners does not hurt the feelings of others, and therefore he is on good terms with his friends and neighbours and also with others. In this way, he helps to keep peace in society. For all of us, it is very important to know this fact that to live well in a society, money alone is not enough. We should also have good manners, for it is human nature to seek friendship, love and respect from others. Friendship with others makes life pleasant and it has to be earned through our own attitude towards others.

If we are kind to others, they will be kind to us, and kindness is the essence of good manners. Bad manners not only drive away friends but also others, including our own family members. A man may have enough money to buy all the things that he wants, but if his manners are bad he will have no friends, and no one can live happily without friends. Even the members of his own family may not respect him and finally, he will become a lonely man. On the other hand, a man whose manners are good has many friends. He commands the respect of all those who come into contact with him. He does not talk ill about others. Even when he is provoked, he tries his best to use words in a way which will not offend others. He is also sympathetic towards the weak and ignorant and does not poke fun at the deformities and weaknesses of others. There are, however, many people who behave so well outside their homes that they are respected and admired by everyone outside. But in their own homes, they are worse than the devil. Such people could not be said to have good manners. If one’s manners are good, one behaves well everywhere, even when one is away from the critical eyes of others. Only such a person can live well in society. It is therefore essential for everyone to cultivate good manners.

It is said that It is not the matter that matters much, but it is the manner that matters much.

Good manners are easy to cultivate and inculcate among the children at their early age. Etiquettes and manners make the man complete, cultured and civilized. Good manners teach us to deal with others with love and affection in humanity point of view.

Greet people with a smile, open arms, open heart. It will make your heart overwhelmed with the joy unspeakable. You will look like the prince endeared by millions of people.

One cannot be happy by hurting, insulting others. Never talk ill of others. Backbiting is the worst habit. If you want to be happy, make other people happy. As you sow, so shall you reap? It is always good to be calm, kind and considerate. Take out the germs of hatred, enmity. Delete all viruses by installing Anti-Virus. Filter your brain and heart to make it safe, pure and healthy. Feel free of burden. Mend your character.

Be pure, perfect and try to remain unpolluted. Be full of the milk of human kindness. Have a cool and quiet head like ice factory. Have a sweet tongue, so sweet like that of honey. This is not good to be good outwardly. Someone, somewhere has rightly said that outward appearance is deceptive. A honey tongues a heart of gall.

With the qualities of Head and Heart, generosity, kindness, politeness; you would be treated as a good human being. Always remember courtesy costs nothing. You can become a successful doctor, engineer, lawyer, sportsman, politician, businessman but it is of course not that much easy to be a good human being.

Be good, Be happy. To conclude, I would quote the best line of a song of Michael Jackson

"Let us make this World better for me, for you and for everybody".

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